Homily: Third Tuesday of Lent

Third Tuesday of Lent (Mt. 18:21-35) “How Often?”

Forgiveness is something that humans struggle with the most. When someone harms us how do we absolve them? And what if they harm us repeatedly?

I have often talked to those who are the victims of abuse that has been perpetrated by a friend or relative who is addicted or who has psychological issues. The question, again, is how do I forgive a person who is bound to harm me again?

The person who has been wronged might have given the friend who has problems a second chance, a third chance, etc. Then they were victimized again. Those harmed ask if they must repeat the cycle of forgiveness and revictimization again if they claim to be followers of Jesus.

I don’t feel that Jesus would want that. The church teaches that there are three steps in the reconciliation process. The steps are to be followed by the one who has committed the sin. The first step is the person who has committed the offence apologizes. The second step is that there is admission of guilt. The person takes full responsibility for their actions. The third step is that there is some attempt at making amends.

When the perpetrator does these three things then there is an obligation to forgive if we claim to be Christians. If we don’t see these three steps taken, then forgiveness can be delayed so that the innocent party is not wounded again.

A person might feel it necessary to forgive from afar so that some kind of healing process can begin. This can be part of letting the anger and hurt go. That way it will not fester within us and make us bitter. God does not want us to live with such feelings. Our God wants us to feel safe and at peace.

Reflection Questions:

1.    When was the last time I apologized to someone and tried to make amends? What was the result?

2.   Have I been repeatedly harmed by the same person? What did I do?

 Dear Parishioners,

             The Alleman Heritage Ball has been a great support to our local Catholic High School. Millions of dollars have been raised and scholarships have been given to numerous young people.

            This is the fiftieth anniversary of the Alleman Ball. I would encourage everyone to take part. It is on March 23rd. If you would like to support the ball, go to the Alleman High School Website or call the high school and see how you can help. Call today.

            May Our Lady of Peace pray for us,

            Fr. Mark